tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post115992103952197790..comments2023-09-05T03:43:00.957-07:00Comments on The Milly Times: What can we do?Millyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08676326805474564427noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1160156742593460732006-10-06T10:45:00.000-07:002006-10-06T10:45:00.000-07:00Milly,By the way... I'll let you know how it turns...Milly,<BR/><BR/>By the way... I'll let you know how it turns out in twenty years or so. :)<BR/><BR/>God Bless<BR/>-DougDougALughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13335959723414264767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1160074571892047462006-10-05T11:56:00.000-07:002006-10-05T11:56:00.000-07:00Milly,I have two girls, so this is a topic close t...Milly,<BR/><BR/>I have two girls, so this is a topic close to my heart. My wife and I have concluded that the best teacher is the living role model. To teach love and respect, you must live a life that embodies love and respect.<BR/><BR/>When I was growing up, there was little doubt that I was loved. My parents may argue amongst themselves, but my sister and I were, safe, protected, and again loved.<BR/><BR/>When I came to a personal relationship with Christ, it was easy to embrace Christ, because I could recognize love. The same was true with marriage. My wife and I have enjoyed almost 10 wonderful years of wedding bliss. This is one of the qualities that we wanted to pass on to our daughters.<BR/><BR/>My wife and I go out of our way to let our girls know that we love and respect not only them, but also each other.<BR/><BR/>It has been shown that many people's view of God is embodied in the person's view of their father. This puts a burden on me to follow in Christ's footsteps: so that my life may reflect the love that God has put into it. <BR/><BR/>Every now and then, I will tell my older daughter "Did I mention that I love you?" She we roll her eyes and respond "Yes dad, a million times!" then I will ask "Do you know why?" and she will say "Because you do!". She will then usually chuckle to herself and give me a hug. It is corny, but I want that message drilled home. <BR/><BR/>All of this to say, that one of the big reasons for doing this is so when they are in their teens, they won't need to look for love, acceptance, or understanding from those who lurk on young girls with insecurities. She won't need a boy to tell her she is beautiful, or smart, or talented: we've covered that.<BR/><BR/>The big difference between how my parents raised us, and how we want to raise ours is the focus: my parents showed us their love and conveyed that they were the defacto source of love while we have tried to show our Girls, God's love in addition to our own, and hopefully been the defacto spokespeople for His unending fountain of it.<BR/><BR/>God Bless<BR/>DougDougALughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13335959723414264767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1160046297174884182006-10-05T04:04:00.000-07:002006-10-05T04:04:00.000-07:00Great post, Milly! I have boys, and they respect w...Great post, Milly! I have boys, and they respect women very much. I love it when they hear their dad say something that they know was the WRONG thing to say to me....they say, "ooh, Dad....see ya!" and they run off. It's a very funny time in our house! :-)<BR/>CP..."let her see herself through my eyes"..that's great. I bet God wishes we'd all see ourselves through His eyes as well!karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04203594257221430139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1160026665825741772006-10-04T22:37:00.000-07:002006-10-04T22:37:00.000-07:00Hey Milly,Great post! It is still a long way for m...Hey Milly,<BR/>Great post! It is still a long way for me this respect. My son tells me <STRONG>time and again</STRONG> that he does not want a wife! I say to him, okay, okay, for now.pearliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17142595255771626179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1160022647955575902006-10-04T21:30:00.000-07:002006-10-04T21:30:00.000-07:00Codepoke,let her see herself through my eyes. What...Codepoke,<BR/>let her see herself through my eyes.<BR/><BR/> What a great thing to say.Millyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08676326805474564427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1160019373383311412006-10-04T20:36:00.000-07:002006-10-04T20:36:00.000-07:00Such a good post, and so little time! I'm sorry no...Such a good post, and so little time! I'm sorry not to get here sooner.<BR/><BR/><B>Everything!</B><BR/><BR/>Nothing goes unnoticed. Do you open the door for your wife and children? Do you give them first choice at the good cuts of meat? Do you change your mind and tune when your wife is right? Do you stand your ground when she's wrong? Do you argue decently when neither of you is sure who's right? Do they know that no other woman exists for you? Do you respect and second her public prayers, or do you need to expand and correct them? <BR/><BR/>My daughter dated some guys I did not respect at all. And yes, there are guys whom I can respect. These guys were losers, and I let her know that I liked the third one much better than the first two. <BR/><BR/>I probably handled it all wrong, but what I meant to do and should have done was simply let her see herself through my eyes. Then, let her see herself through my eyes with "him." Hopefully, she would decide that I was not completely blind, and begin to see herself the same way I do. If that happened, she would dump him forthwith.Kevin Knoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16788817477327510023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1159936712616258772006-10-03T21:38:00.000-07:002006-10-03T21:38:00.000-07:00Thanks l.e.MThanks l.e.MMillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08676326805474564427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24015530.post-1159930072644645212006-10-03T19:47:00.000-07:002006-10-03T19:47:00.000-07:00Milly I don't have your email and you asked about ...Milly I don't have your email and you asked about Larry, here is his email.<BR/> lmouser@mchsi.comLaymondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14880140073140250048noreply@blogger.com